Have you ever said something that offended someone? Has someone ever said something to you that offended you even though that wasn't their intention? Whether it is an intentional assault on someone else, an unintentional insult or invalidating someone else's feelings, these microaggressions often occur in everyday life and the results can be psychologically and emotionally harmful to the recipient. Microaggressions are often targeted at people due to their race, gender or sexual orientation but can be aimed at any person identified with any ostracized group. As I studied this week about microaggressions, I was made more aware of these instances as I observed interactions around me and also as I interacted with others.
While traveling this week I was standing outside of a hotel when the valet opened a car door for someone pulling up to check in. The valet obviously recognized the couple and welcomed them back to the hotel. The gentleman commented to the valet "When we pulled up, my wife said "There's that guy that looks like Arseno Hall that was here last year". The valet didn't respond but went about his work. This struck me as an inappropriate comment as I stood there and watched and I wondered what the valet really thought of these guests. I wondered if the valet had been offended. Had I been the recipient of that comment I may have been offended because it really devalues you as a person when someone refers to you as someone else or views you only by a characteristic. What may have been meant as a compliment could quickly turn into an insult. I know how I would feel if someone referred to me as Melissa McCarthy...lumping me into a category with someone else based solely on one characteristic without knowing my name or anything about me.
Observing for and considering the implications of microagressions this week, has made me more considerate of others. It has made me review my own actions, the things I say to others and how someone could be unintentionally offended by something I say.
Terri,
ReplyDeleteThat is so rude! The types of microaggression can be "plentiful and toxic” (Laureate Education, Inc., 2011). I know I wouldn't want anyone to offend my character as a person based on what they see. That is mean and uncalled for! Yet everyday someone is the marked target for unintended or intended insult on their character based on race, gender, class and even their character. As early childhood professionals we need to show and teach children how to value each other and respect one another.
Laureate Education, Inc., (Producer). (2011). EDUC6164 Perspectives on Diversity and Equity. [Microaggressions in Everyday Life”]. A Discussion with Dr. Derald Wing Sue. Baltimore, MD.